Portrait of the
Idealist Counselor INFJ


Counselors are complex individuals possessing a quiet but very certain intense aura. They will almost always go the extra mile even when it is not necessary. Their intensity is revealed in their perfectionistic pursuits and in their judicious nature. They stand their ground at all costs when their core beliefs are questioned or threatened. The intensity which manifests during these contentions can be extremely infectious. Even when words are not present the intensity can still be felt.


Counselors make mentoring their focus as they help people to realize their true human potential. They thrive when they are involved in one-to-one interactions where they are nurturing personal development. In fostering growth they trust their intuition as they seek to discover a person's identity. Rather than refining mere skills and abilities, they yearn to take on an individual as a disciple. Growth must be personal and meaningful for it to be authentic and lasting.


Counselors value harmony in all of their relationships and want all the groups they are a part of to feel healthy and whole. They make every effort to bring people and processes together, so that all is well integrated. They desire for the whole group to run smoothly and pleasantly. These individuals enjoy pleasing others and they find conflict disagreeable and destructive. They respond well to affirmation and use approval as a means of motivating others.


Counselors tend to be private, sensitive people, and thus are not usually highly vocal or visible. Sometimes they can be hard to get to know, for they have an unusually rich inner life. Even their closest friends who have known them for many years may find sides emerging which come as a surprise. Their inner circle of friends and colleagues is likely to be small, deep, and longstanding. Counselors find their source of energy in contemplation and solitude, where they often retreat to gain perspective and renew themselves.


Counselors have a strong empathic nature which makes them feel that they are aware of others' emotions or intentions. They have exceptional intuitive ability, extending to insight regarding people, things, and often events, even taking the form of visions and premonitions. They are outstanding at counseling others because they have a unique gift to get in touch with people's inner lives. They are successful in dealing individually with others because of their personal warmth, insight, devotion, and interpretive skills.


Counselors have a natural talent for reaching people through authentic connection. They yearn for connections which are soulful and deep. They look at life through a romantic lens where all of their relationships must be characterized by a special bond that is idealistic. Connecting for them is conveyed in a heartfelt and careful manner through either written or verbal expression. Their great talent for metaphorical language is usually directed toward communicating with people in a very personalized way.

A Collection of
Idealist Counselors

  • Eleanor Roosevelt
  • Mohandas Gandhi
  • Daw Aung San Suu Kyi
  • Dietrich Bonhoeffer
  • Mary Baker Eddy
  • Vaclav Havel
  • Jane Goodall
  • T. E. Lawrence
  • Queen Noor
  • C.S. Lewis